Flash Movie Review: Cold Mountain
AFTER LISTENING TO THEM WHINE ABOUT how hard it is to be separated so long from their significant other, I had to remind them I had been in a long-distance relationship for a couple of years. They were complaining about the 6 months out of state assignment their partner was on for work. I wanted to be supportive, I truly did; but all I was hearing was a list of complaints about their needs not being met. It was only 6 months and I knew the high costs made it prohibitive to travel often; but they were in a committed relationship. Shouldn’t those in such a relationship be able to “weather the storm” of being apart I wondered? In my past relationship we were only able to be together once a month after they were promoted to a position at their corporate headquarters, that was out of state. They could not turn down the offer and I would not have wanted them to do it; we chose to be together while we were figuring out what made the most sense. My friend knew their partner traveled for work. Granted it usually involved being away 3 to 5 days at a time, nothing more until this current work detail. Tell me if I am wrong, but I had to wonder just how committed were they to their love relationship? COMMITMENT TAKES WORK AND IT TAKES strength; don’t kid yourself if you do not think so. I knew a married couple who spent more time apart than together because one of them took a teaching job in a foreign country. They realized for the short term it would be challenging, but they had a goal; with this job they would be able to retire years earlier than expected. The money from the teaching job would allow them to both retire young enough to enjoy sharing their lives together. I am not saying this would work for everyone; but I will say it shows a strong commitment to each other. This couple was able to see each other 3 times a year. Their children were grown and out of the house, which I assume made this arrangement easier for them. Within my circle of friends and acquaintances, I have seen individuals who cannot handle adversity in their relationships. If something tough happens they are too quick to end everything and move on. I try not to judge them; I understand everyone handles things differently. Now that I have watched this Oscar winner, I should just suggest they watch this movie to see how some people deal with commitment. HAVING RECENTLY MET, THERE WAS LITTLE time for Inman, played by Jude Law (The Nest, The Grand Budapest Hotel), and Ada Monroe, played by Nicole Kidman (Boy Erased, Bombshell), to get to know each other because the country was falling into a civil war. With Renee Zellweger (Judy, My One and Only) as Ruby Thewes, Eileen Atkins (Robin Hood, Gosford Park) as Maddy and Brendan Gleeson (The Guard, Calvary) as Stobrod Thewes; this film festival winning adventure drama was beautifully filmed and exquisitely acted. The outdoor scenes were wonderful to look at. Renee was amazing in her role and for me, she was the most believable. Much of the film consisted of a slower pace; sometimes more than I thought necessary. However, I did not lose interest as the script provided enough change in emotions to keep things moving. I can only assume the book must be powerful as this film had a variety of ways to look at the story. Also, I never gave enough thought to those left behind during wartime and I felt the writers did an especially good job in showing viewers the reality of the times. With a running time of 2 ½ hours, it does take one to commit to watching this film; but I feel it would be worth it.
3 ¼ stars
Posted on December 22, 2020, in Drama and tagged 3 1/4 stars, academy awards, adventure, brendan gleeson, civil war, drama, eileen atkins, film festival winner, history, jude law, nicole kidman, osar winner, renee zellweger, war. Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.
I loved the book…almost loved the movie…I always pictured Renee’s character differently
I wouldn’t like to be apart from my spouse, but we did have a period where we were mostly apart. We weathered it. We’d weather it again. But never getting time to yourself is hard in a different way. We’re weathering it, but it’s not easy. Everything about marriage takes work, communication and commitment from both people. I try not to judge other people. I do think you owe it to your kids to put in the effort. It looks like a visually stunning movie. I look forward to going back to a movie theatre one day. I miss it. I hope they survive this.
HI Brenda and thank you for sharing your history with your spouse. Totally agree with you; successful marriages take work.
I hope you get to see this film and that it ties you over until we are able to go back to the theaters. I miss them.
Stay safe and be well during your holiday season.
Likewise, my friend.
I really enjoyed the book and remember being disappointed by the movie, though I can no longer remember specifically why.
My husband and I have had to live apart several times over our 27 years together. It isn’t ideal but we obviously made it work. It was hard on the kids when we were emigrating and living on different continents but we just found creative ways to stay connected. Modern technology certainly makes that easier.
Thank you for sharing your story and it says something about the 2 of yours commitment to each other. Be well and stay safe.
I’ve seen the movie and agree with your review. It was excellent.
Thank you for telling me. Have a safe, healthy and happy new year.