I learned the hard way how important communication is in a relationship. Actions speak louder than words had always been the major way I would convey my feelings. When a friend or relative would tell me they loved me; my reciprocation would stumble out of my mouth, landing in a nervous thud. In one of my most meaningful relationships, a day did not go by without me being told that I was loved. After a short time the importance of the word “love” diminished for me, due to hearing it every day like one would hear the word hello. When my friends carried on how I did not flinch when my significant other stuck their finger in my lip balm, in my brain I was simply showing my love. Watching this movie reinforced my belief in the power of communication. The story looked at the relationship between Peter and Vandy, showing different stages of their growth. Jason Ritter (Parenthood-TV, Freddy vs. Jason) and Jess Weixler (Teeth, The Big Bad Swim) were perfectly cast as Peter and Vandy. Their expressive faces beautifully conveyed the emotions they were feeling without the need of dialog. This Sundance nominated movie told the story in short scenes that jumped back and forth in time. At the start I had a hard time connecting to the out of order segments. But as more was revealed about the couple, the easier it was for me to understand the story. I thought this film was spot on in showing how communication or the lack of molds the relationship between two people. It was a truthful depiction in my opinion. Having gone through the love and loss of someone special, this romantic drama resonated deep inside of me.
3 stars — DVD
A relationship cannot survive without communication. Already aware of this, the point was enforced further as I watched this film. There has to be a willingness to compromise with the person you love. I would also add: being able to handle the things that test you. For example, if you cannot stand seeing dirty dishes left out by your partner, can you find peace of mind; instead of picking a fight with them? These were some of the issues Violet and Tom needed to deal with in this romantic comedy. Played by Emily Blunt (The Young Victoria, The Adjustment Bureau) and Jason Segel (Jeff, Who Lives at Home; The Muppets), Tom Solomon proposed to Violet Barnes on their one year anniversary. Their planned short engagement had to be extended when Violet was accepted into a doctoral program at the University of Michigan. Tom would have to quit his job and move with Violet from San Francisco to Ann Arbor. There were parts of the film that dealt with the couple’s transitions with honesty along with touches of humor and sadness. The story needed some editing, for it dragged in parts. Also, I did not find Jason’s performance convincing, especially his outdoorsman phase. There were several bright spots to what was otherwise a long movie about a long engagement.
2 1/3 stars